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My Human Is My BFF – What’s Your Cat-Human Relationship?

June 14, 2022 By: Summer Samba15 Comments

Summer looks at the cat-human relationship, and the categories they fall into - quite different from what most humans assume!

Most humans prefer to consider their relationships with their cat to be parental in nature. My human has always been the opposite, as she was vehemently opposed to ever being a parent. Think of that what you will, but it has given her a different perspective about the cats in her lives and the ability to see that feline-human relationships are not what they seem to be, at least to the human half.

Cat and human relationships, while all different, do fall into certain categories. If you want to take a step back and really examine how you and your cat relate to each other, you may be surprised at where you two fall! So let’s look at them.

The BFF

I’m starting with this one first because it’s the relationship I have with my human. She is definitely my Best Friend Forever, my partner in crime (well, we don’t actually do any crimes), and a team. This is pretty common for a working cat like me. While we BFFs rely on our humans for a lot, we know we are equals — we just have different roles. And I treat my human as such. We work well together, and we also share a lot of fun!

Cat signs of a BFF relationship:

  • Expects to be included in everything
  • Does not understand why they have to be in a carrier, when humans travel without being in one.
  • Has strong opinions about other friends (human and feline) and potential partners of their humans.
  • Is there for you when you need it, but will do their own thing if they sense you need space.
  • Wants to share their toys and other good times with you. All the time.
  • Is happiest when you are alone together.

The Master-Servant – With the Cat as Master

If your cat came from the streets or another situation where they were already past kittenhood and independent, your relationship might fall into this category. Your cat doesn’t need you, but they appreciate the comforts you give them. And chances are they appreciate those comforts a lot and are really quite grateful for them. But they do have expectations of you. They tend to hold you to a rigid schedule, and expect you to respect their space.

Don’t despair if this sounds like your home life. It isn’t as cold as you may assume. If you’ve watched any movies about the extremely wealthy, you might note that some of them are very attached to their servants, perhaps more than to family. Their servants are their home base, and they treasure and love them for a lifetime. So your bond with your cat master can run pretty deep.

Cat signs of a Master-Servant relationship:

  • Expects meals a certain way, at a certain time.
  • Clearly knows they have the upper paw.
  • Gets annoyed if you bother them with trivial things like, oh, meds, or getting petted while they are trying to nap.
  • Really, really, hate the indignity of funny hats and collars. Like, don’t ever do that to them because they will hold it against you.
  • Surprises you with sudden acts of affection or loyalty.

The Parent-Child

This really isn’t quite as common as humans think. Cats know you aren’t their parent. Usually. But if you’ve raised a cat from a very young kitten, or even had them as a bottle baby, then they will imprint on you as if you are a mother. And they tend to be very dependent on you in a way the BFF cat isn’t. They are needier.

Keep in mind that with the Parental relationship comes a big responsibility. Parents have the ability to raise kids into emotionally healthy beings, or break them so that they never quite function normally. While a cat’s mental distress isn’t going to wind up in jail time and destroyed lives, it still keeps the cat from having their best life. While this goes for all cat-human relationships, it goes double or triple here.

Cat signs of a Parent-Child relationship

  • Thinks you are in charge of everything, including the weather and things that go bump in the night.
  • Nags you when they aren’t getting their way.
  • Causes trouble when nagging doesn’t work.
  • Expects you to fulfill their every need.
  • Loves you even when they are mad at you.
  • Reacts to you as an authority figure, and may even be a little scared of you if they’ve really misbehaved.
  • Never quite grows up.
  • Expects you to buy them a car and pay for their college education (I’m just kidding about the latter).

The Family Member/ Roommate

Not quite a BFF and not quite a Parent-Child relationship, the Family Member/ Roommate is actually the most typical. This is where your cat chooses to happily coexist with you. You’re not a team, at least not always, and your cat is perfectly happy to do their own thing without worrying that they aren’t getting enough attention from you. It’s fun, healthy relationship, full of love and loyalty without being needy.

In the Family Member/ Roommate relationship, while you meet your cat’s basic needs, they are pretty easy going about it. They don’t think the world is coming to an end if dinner is 15 minutes late. While they may not like it if you take a vacation without them, they’ll be fine with the pet sitter and won’t sulk when you return. (At least not for long.) This is actually the ideal relationship, and if this is what you have with your cat, you are indeed lucky.

Cat signs of a Family Member/ Roommate relationship

  • Loves spending time with you, but also loves spending time by themselves.
  • Appreciates your kindness and affection, but doesn’t have much patience with you if they think you are doing something dumb.
  • Even when they are doing their own thing, they usually have time for you.
  • Will listen to you when you are upset, even though they don’t have any answers.
  • They trust you to do the right thing by them. So don’t ever betray that trust.

So which relationship do you and your cat have? Let me know in the comments!

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Comments

  1. Katie+Isabella says

    January 20, 2023 at 7:41 am

    BFF and Family Member

    Reply
  2. Memories of Eric and Flynn says

    June 16, 2022 at 12:47 pm

    I never really thought about it before but think family member/roommate sums up the relationship I had with the boys.

    Reply
  3. mark's Mews says

    June 15, 2022 at 10:57 pm

    We are basically equals here at Mark’s Mews, all doing what we are best at. Sure, TBT is best at opening cans and cleaning litterboxes, but we do our part too.

    We catch mice, frogs, and skinks that are waiting to attack our home. We chase off introoders that might attack TBT when he is outside. We sooth and warm him in the chair and bed. We keep him agile by walking around his feet as he moves. We entertain him by playing with toys, the tunnel, and turbotrak.

    We give him something to do with his camera. We test his hearing by meowing a lot in various degrees of loudness. We try to make sure his food (especially the meat parts) is safe for him to eat.

    Our responsibilities are many and often!

    Reply
  4. Cathy Keisha says

    June 15, 2022 at 7:49 pm

    Definitely master/slave with me as master. I demand everything be done on my time when I want. If I want dinner early, I want dinner early. Of course I don’t always get my way but the peeps have the scars to prove it.

    Reply
  5. meowmeowmans says

    June 15, 2022 at 7:47 pm

    We’re closest to the Family member/roommate one!

    Reply
  6. Brian says

    June 15, 2022 at 3:59 pm

    THose were all super interesting observations sweet Summer. We might fall somewhere in all of them but we all DO KNOW we are family!

    Reply
  7. Melissa & Mudpie says

    June 15, 2022 at 3:35 pm

    Hmmm…I consider myself a cat mom, but like you never entertained the idea of having human children. No patience for that! I would say Mudpie and I are BFFs too.

    Reply
  8. Catherine Lingg says

    June 15, 2022 at 1:20 pm

    It’s a toss up between family member/roommate and Parent/ child. Both my cats had difficult beginnings. They we’re not loved or cared for and considered disposable. That infuriates me. I care for them as I would a child. Taking responsibility for their every need. (Whether they like it or not) eg. Teeth brushing and nail clipping and that all important trip to the vet. I give them their space but Rosie chooses to be by me most all the time. Very dogesque. Princess was once VERY needy and vocal but had other issues that required medication as a last resort. It has helped her accept Rosie and no longer spraying out of frustration. She’s much less needy now. Our relationship has changed from mother/child to great friends. So, you see Summer, not everything is black and white. I love them both dearly

    Reply
  9. pat k says

    June 15, 2022 at 12:12 pm

    I think we had (note past tense) the family member/roommate
    relations. Our cats lived outdoors but could come into the heated
    garage during the winter and use cat baskets on thick rugs. They
    had a lot of attention from our family.

    Reply
  10. Athena and Marie says

    June 15, 2022 at 9:48 am

    We are all those apart from the last one!

    Reply
  11. The Poupounette Gang says

    June 15, 2022 at 9:39 am

    We’ll have to give this one some thought, Summer!

    Purrs,
    Tama and Benny

    Reply
  12. Ellen Pilch says

    June 15, 2022 at 9:21 am

    Sammy was my BFF and my soul mate. I am definitely servant to the 3 ferals. 🙂

    Reply
  13. Eastside Cats Blog says

    June 15, 2022 at 6:37 am

    Celestial PO’M was my BFF, and missing him is an every day feeling.

    Reply
  14. Katie Isabella says

    June 15, 2022 at 5:34 am

    Very very interesting. I have thoughts about this too. Maybe one day I will expand on that. In Katie’s blog of she agrees.

    Reply
  15. Mickeys Musings says

    June 15, 2022 at 4:09 am

    My relationship with mum is BFF.
    I simply love to be near her. Even she rescued me from the outdoors and brought me in
    to a home with other cats, I decided she was mine.
    Now it is just the two of us and I love it!
    We are currently staying with mums sister and her hubby.
    I am a bit nervous, but as long as mum is there I am happy!
    Purrs, Julie

    Reply

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