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You are here: Home / Advice / Advice – August 2012

Advice – August 2012

July 23, 2012 By: Sparkle Cat32 Comments

Dear Sparkle,
My human came home with a kitten a few days ago and guess what? I actually like the kid! He’s funny and fun and since he’s a Maine Coon mix and already four months old, he’s not too small or fragile. I can tell already we are going to be great pals. So what’s the problem? My human is the problem! She is getting in the way. Because the little guy is new and still so young, he needs to be shown the ropes and taught right from wrong. For example, last night he jumped on the bed like he belonged there — which he doesn’t, quite yet. So I hissed at him and bopped him one in the face. From the way my human acted, you would have thought I had tried to murder him: “How could you?” “He’s just a baby!” etc., etc. The kitten? He jumped off the bed and 30 seconds later he had forgotten all about the whap and was digging a dust bunny out from under the dresser (he does have weird ideas about what constitutes a toy). Another time, the kitten stole one of my toys so I jumped him — and my human screamed at me! What can I do to make her stop coddling this kitten? It can’t be good for him, and it is certainly annoying me.
Signed,
Ticked Off Top Cat

Dear TOTC,
Humans (yours especially) don’t get the whole kitten training thing. It is a good thing you do, otherwise this pipsqueak would grow up spoiled and self-centered and he would never understand that since you came first, you set the pace in your relationship with him. One of the issues here is that humans never whap their offspring, or at least it is very much frowned upon. I know you may disagree with this approach, but it actually works for humans because their thinking processes are deep and complex. Whapping a human kitten might cause him to grow up with all sorts of unhappy psychological problems. We cats are fortunate in that our thinking contains far fewer shades of gray, and we are pretty much surface creatures: what you see is what you get (with an occasional surprise to keep things interesting). So whapping, or even a full body slam when deemed necessary, works just fine for feline youngsters. Your human, not realizing that cats think so differently from humans, doesn’t get that.

Your best plan is to establish a partnership with the kitten (with you as senior partner, of course). This should be easy to do, because even though you are doling out the discipline, you are also letting him do the really fun stuff that your human doesn’t like: jumping on the kitchen counters, climbing up the curtains, noshing on carelessly left out food, etc. The kitten will soon figure out who really has his back. And by the way, if your human gets upset at any of the kitten’s so-called “misbehavior” and starts getting loud, maybe you should give her a whap to keep her in line.

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  1. Hairless Cat Girl says

    October 29, 2012 at 5:25 am

    Hi Sparkle,

    “…noshing…” 🙂

    Aside from understandable jealousy, I suppose there is some truth in an older cat knowing how to properly set boundaries for a young newcomer – or at least the way the older cat likes cats to behave in his house.

    As long as the new cat isn’t in danger or getting over-scolded by the long-time cat resident, it’s probably healthy for the younger cat to be taught the ropes by the older cat. Us humans can’t assume we know better than the older cat’s instincts on the matter.

    Good observations.

    =^-^= Hairless Cat Girl=^-^=

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  2. Mac says

    August 6, 2012 at 8:09 pm

    Excellent advice Sparkle. Stumbled upon this blog…so glad that I did.

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  3. Kizzie says

    August 1, 2012 at 12:54 pm

    Good advice, Sparkle, you have to make sure these youngsters know who’s in charge from the outset, not to mention the humans (when necessary).

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  4. Team Tabby says

    July 25, 2012 at 12:14 pm

    That sounds like very good advice, Sparkle. We would not know how to reply to this question because the cats that came after we did are all seniors. The human ‘kits’ are all growed up before any of kitties got here. So, in case we ever do get a kitten or two, we’ll save your advice.

    Purrs,
    Mindy
    Moe
    Cookie
    Mike

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  5. Fraidy Cats says

    July 23, 2012 at 10:20 pm

    you always have great advice, Sparkle. we especially like the last line 🙂

    Pip, Smidgen, Minnie, Hollie

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  6. Glogirly & Katie says

    July 23, 2012 at 9:50 pm

    Fabulous advice, Sparkle!
    You really should offer a correspondence course for humans.
    ; ) Katie

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  7. Penelope says

    July 23, 2012 at 6:52 pm

    me thinks Whapping is purrfectly the right way to trains young. Human Mom’s don’t thinks that!
    Me wonders why….
    Kisses
    Nellie

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  8. Spitty the Kitty says

    July 23, 2012 at 3:48 pm

    What wonderful advice Sparkle!! The Human sent it along to the Dad of Aggie and Wally and Madie Mitten Kitten (not that he tries to protect M3K–he’s fine with A&W showing her that they’re the boss of her).

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  9. Abby says

    July 23, 2012 at 3:47 pm

    Sparkle
    You’re brilliant I say just brilliant.

    purrs
    >^,,^<
    ♥Abby♥Boo♥Ping♥Jinx♥Grace♥

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  10. BeadedTail says

    July 23, 2012 at 1:51 pm

    Great advice Sparkle! Around here I still can’t whap my little sisfur cause Mommy thinks she’s still a “kitten”. It’s awful.

    Purrs,
    Isabella

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  11. Devoted to Willow says

    July 23, 2012 at 12:51 pm

    Sparkle that is some wise advice the humans think in terms of their own experience and feelings and do not always think in terms of cat ways so this was useful to explain those differences for how cat hierarcy is imposed.

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  12. Dorothy Abernathy says

    July 23, 2012 at 12:11 pm

    Hi Sparkle! Mistletoe here. I kept the twins in line when they came home. Now these big orange and white mancats still think I’m bigger. That works well, for me. Now Hitch, he was older and had been living by his wits, out in the world. I don’t know how he survived, but he didn’t take instruction very well then, and he still has a lot of nerve. When it comes to the human kittens, whupping them isn’t a good idea. For some reason that makes them believe it’s alright to whup on those smaller than them. That could mean you, or me, or any other fursiblings. Bad idea for the humans to whup or swat as a rule of paw. My human kitten got swatted twice. Once when he was playing with a cool pluggy thing that stuck in the wall and once when he kept running in to the road. My huMom says she needed to make a quick impression. My not furever home had a lot of swatting, thumping and hitting. That’s bad for kittens. Very bad.

    Great advice as usual! You should write a book!

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    • Sparkle says

      July 23, 2012 at 5:42 pm

      Actually I have written a book — two, in fact! Here is my Amazon author’s page:
      http://www.amazon.com/Sparkle-the-Cat/e/B002E1CH86/

      Reply
  13. MaxtheQuiltCat says

    July 23, 2012 at 11:34 am

    Great advice as usual. I love your advice column.

    hugs, Max

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  14. Callie (a.k.a. Trouble) says

    July 23, 2012 at 10:59 am

    Sparkle, Sassy here. Great advice on training the young one. Oh, how I wished I had done a better job with the Spotted Airhead!

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  15. Cheysuli says

    July 23, 2012 at 10:11 am

    Excellent advice. Because you know in the future the kit will know who’s in charge.

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  16. Cheryl J says

    July 23, 2012 at 9:35 am

    Great advice Sparkle. Can’t wait to see pictures of the new kitten and to hear more stories!

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  17. Tamago says

    July 23, 2012 at 9:30 am

    Great advice, Sparkle!! My boys whap me when I give them too much tummy rub. I learn a lot and be careful not to misbehave..

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  18. William says

    July 23, 2012 at 9:26 am

    Very sage advice, Sparkle!

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  19. Pumpkinpuddy says

    July 23, 2012 at 9:17 am

    Candy & EK sure got their share of thwocks when they were kittens. Gotta keep them young whippersnappers in their place. There’s only ONE boss kitty in this house. *preens*

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  20. Random Felines says

    July 23, 2012 at 8:59 am

    Good advice….mom says that part of our job in helping to raise the foster monsters around here to is keep them in line – and that means sometimes they get whapped. There are rules and they gotta learn them!!

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  21. Caren Gittleman says

    July 23, 2012 at 8:21 am

    Sparkle as always your advice is “paw” on!!!!

    I am glad though that I don’t have to contend with a kitten, tolerating Dakota is enough for me!

    Love, Cody

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  22. dobson says

    July 23, 2012 at 7:53 am

    I like how you touched on the main difference between human brains and cat brains: the Limbic System. Humans have waaay too much gray matter which is why it’s sometimes hard to decide what to have for supper. Cats do not have that problem.

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  23. Brian says

    July 23, 2012 at 7:48 am

    Thanks for reminding us how wise you are Sparkle! Great advice!

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  24. Fuzzy Tales says

    July 23, 2012 at 6:46 am

    Definitely good advice, Sparkle. The mom remembers Chumley used to bop Annie on the head when she’d horn in on his playtime with the human. Fortunately, our human found that quite entertaining and didn’t get upset about it. ;-P

    BTW, the problem with too many kids today, in our human’s opinion, is that they HAVEN’T been whapped when they should have been. Not beaten, just a good smack on the butt when needed.

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  25. Cat's Cats says

    July 23, 2012 at 6:30 am

    Kittens will always test the boundaries, it is important for TOTC to keep the new youngster in line and show him (gently) who is boss…just maybe not in front of the humans 😉

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  26. The Florida Furkids and Lexi says

    July 23, 2012 at 5:55 am

    Excellent advice!!!

    The Florida Furkids and Lexi

    pee ess – we vote every day!!

    Reply
  27. Hannah and Lucy says

    July 23, 2012 at 4:27 am

    If the kitten isn’t shown that they rank well below cat(s) already living there they will never learn that they aren’t No.1 in the scheme of things.
    Luv Hannah and Lucy xx xx

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  28. Marg says

    July 23, 2012 at 3:41 am

    We love this post. If the darn humans would whap the human babies a lot more, we would have a better world. We totally agree. That was some great advice to form a partnership. Hope all have a great day.
    By the way, Sparkle, you sure have Two Two’s number with your comment yesterday about not seeing her taking it easy. She never does take it easy.

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  29. The Kitties of Purring Pines says

    July 23, 2012 at 2:52 am

    We conPUR with Diamond! Excellent advice as usual!

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  30. Diamond Emerald_Eyes says

    July 23, 2012 at 2:46 am

    Me thinks humans should whap their kittens more. Most are rude and like to pull my tail…

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  31. Punapippuri says

    July 23, 2012 at 12:43 am

    As usual, most excellent advice Sparkle. This is exactly how I was brought up by Stran. A firm and loving paw. I have tried the same when the baby ninjas arrived but they got everywhere so maybe I hissed a lot….

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